A couple of years ago I stumbled across www.g0ys.org (that’s gay with a zero – G0Y). It was interesting, but I didn’t give it much thought at the time other than thinking it was just a bunch of gay guys who hated effeminate gays and anal sex trying to justify themselves.
Recently though I’ve seen them mentioned around the traps and have given them another look. What I’ve found is fascinating, to say the least.
Basically, their tenet is built around the idea that more than 50% of guys are really on the bi-sexual spectrum and we should accept and embrace that. They also condemn anal sex and posit that being gay is mostly defined by effeminate, anal sex loving queers and it’s time we normalised “bromance”.
I actually applaud them for bravely addressing a very large issue – almost the elephant in the room in some ways! I’m not sure of the veracity of all their stats but I do believe they are right in that many guys would engage in more romantic and intimate relationships with their “mates” if it was normalised.
They also address the biblical issues around homosexuality reasonably well, although the way they approach it suggests a strong religious bias mixed up in it all.
What I find disturbing though is the strong underlying contempt for effeminate gay men. They hardly even attempt to disguise this either, which I guess is good to know before you venture too deep into their literature.
Their entire appeal is built around “we hate that effeminate crap and anal sex is evil”. They then present a lot of great information about normalising same-sex relationships between men – something that definitely should be promoted! But the huge problem is to do with their motivation and underlying attitudes, which, as I said, aren’t even thinly disguised.
There is a lot of mocking the “visible” gay community – the effeminates, the type that dress up and go to Pride parades and want to flaunt their sexuality. I can understand the mentality in terms of a knee-jerk reaction (I’m not effeminate myself and just want to be a “normal” guy who happens to be only attracted to men) but it’s actually incredibly damaging! The last thing we need is another level of bigotry and intolerance masquerading as a superior option for gay men!
The real issue is tolerance and mutual respect. We must learn that we are all unique and wonderful as we are. There is no right or wrong way of being gay. I absolutely agree that the taboo boundaries of sexual attraction should be exposed and normalised, but not at the expense of all the other expression of sexuality.
So for me, these guys, while expressing a genuine issue that needs urgent attention, have created something that is not only unhelpful but actually destructive!
It’s the wrong solution to the wrong problem guys!
Thanks for the post pointing this out. Upon visiting I found some very relevant information. I checked out their claims & statistics & then a second time. I’ve gotta say that I disagree with you in the notion you made that these g0ys don’t address the right issue/s. The FACTS prove otherwise! I would strongly suggest that you check out the section called “NO APOLOGY” for the hard, cold stats – numbers collected for 30+ years by health organizations such as the CDC. If you’re a regular guy who loves guys (too), you need to check these g0ys out at the .org website by the same name!
Hi Curt,
Yes, I’ve read all the facts they present. There’s a couple of considerations in the data they point to, all around context and interpretation. The nuances and complexities of health issues are way beyond the bias that these people suggest.
I, too, have dug very deep into all this stuff and come to very different conclusions. The problem is, these guys have a serious agenda that is simply bigotry based on the rejection of “the feminine”. They have no understanding of the complex nature of gender and sexuality, and base their ideas on their personal opinions, fired up by confirmation biases and the echo chamber of their own voices.
I interacted with their “leader” and honestly, they are vitriolic and basically a hate group (and I don’t say that lightly)
At the end of the day, if you don’t like anal sex – don’t do it. If you want to be a macho man who likes to have sexual relations with other guys, that’s awesome. But to project your personal opinions in such a disgusting and vilifying way is unacceptable.